Friday, July 6, 2018

How to not overthink

1. Awareness is the beginning of change.

Before you can begin to address or cope with your habit of overthinking, you need to learn to be aware of it when it's happening. Any time you find yourself doubting or feeling stressed or anxious, step back and look at the situation and how you're responding. In that moment of awareness is the seed of the change you want to make.

2. Don't think of what can go wrong, but what can go right.

In many cases, overthinking is caused by a single emotion: fear. When you focus on all the negative things that might happen, it's easy to become paralyzed. Next time you sense that you starting to spiral in that direction, stop. Visualize all the things that can go right and keep those thoughts present and up front.

3. Distract yourself into happiness.

Sometimes it's helpful to have a way to distract yourself with happy, positive, healthy alternatives. Things like mediation, dancing, exercise, learning an instrument, knitting, drawing, and painting can distance you from the issues enough to shut down the overanalysis.

4. Put things into perspective.

It's always easy to make things bigger and more negative than they need to be. The next time you catch yourself making a mountain out of a molehill, ask yourself how much it will matter in five years. Or, for that matter, next month. Just this simple question, changing up the time frame, can help shut down overthinking.

5. Stop waiting for perfection.

This is a big one. For all of us who are waiting for perfection, we can stop waiting right now. Being ambitious is great but aiming for perfection is unrealistic, impractical, and debilitating. The moment you start thinking "This needs to be perfect" is the moment you need to remind yourself, "Waiting for perfect is never as smart as making progress."

6. Change your view of fear.

Whether you're afraid because you've failed in the past, or you're fearful of trying or overgeneralizing some other failure, remember that just because things did not work out before does not mean that has to be the outcome every time. Remember, every opportunity is a new beginning, a place to start again.

7. Put a timer to work.

Give yourself a boundary. Set a timer for five minutes and give yourself that time to think, worry, and analyze. Once the timer goes off, spend 10 minutes with a pen and paper, writing down all the things that are worrying you, stressing you, or giving you anxiety. Let it rip. When the 10 minutes is up, throw the paper out and move on--preferably to something fun.

8. Realize you can't predict the future.

No one can predict the future; all we have is now. If you spend the present moment worrying about the future, you are robbing yourself of your time now. Spending time on the future is simply not productive. Spend that time instead on things that give you joy.

9. Accept your best.

The fear that grounds overthinking is often based in feeling that you aren't good enough--not smart enough or hardworking enough or dedicated enough. Once you've given an effort your best, accept it as such and know that, while success may depend in part on some things you can't control, you've done what you could do.

10. Be grateful.

You can't have a regretful thought and a grateful thought at the same time, so why not spend the time positively? Every morning and every evening, make a list of what you are grateful for. Get a gratitude buddy and exchange lists so you have a witness to the good things that are around you.

Overthinking is something that can happen to anyone. But if you have a great system for dealing with it you can at least ward off some of the negative, anxious, stressful thinking and turn it into something useful, productive, and effective.

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

Present that I would like to receive

Assalamualaikum and hai!

Weird thing here. I'm trying to tell you what the thing I love the most when receiving a present.

  • Books
I love books. the best part of them is a smell. and the nicest thing i adore is the story. reading a book can open someone's mind and it feels like being in another scene.. that you'll never experience in your life. yeah i think it helps me to see the world clearly and widely than before. new perspective in life, every story is worth it. Book is like a time travel that you can go back to its place back again. If you want to know what story that I love the most, I think it's everyone favourite as well

Harry potter ; The movie is so good and so its novel

13 reasons why 

Sad girls

To all the boys I've loved before triology

I don't mind what's book as long it's suits my soul haha. but i give you a clue : i like reading horror, adventure, teenager's life story and sad books. I love the story if it makes me cry.

  • Flower and letter
Sounds odd when i say i really like to get a flower didn't I? but honestly, which women willing to say no to flower? What I mean is, we girls love real flowers but we never say it out loud. WHY?? because there's a feeling that undefined if we get especially during a special occasions like a graduation day? birthday would be good too. Plus with a letter that you write by your own. Real words get me touched, i'm not kidding :)

  • Sticker + colourful pens
Since i write my diaries and make a planner, so this thingy is so crucial! I like to makeover my diaries and stuff and so because I do love cute stuffs haha

  • A sneakers!
Yep I'm that girl who loves to wear sneakers everywhere I go! It would be meaningful if you give me this because I'll wear them everyday haha.

basically my foot size is 6

  • Watches
Obviously, when you give me a watch, it will definately remind me of you because everytime i see that watch, i would remember who give it to me :D

Whoever read this, I'm not the one who hoping that you should get me a present or what. I'm just telling you the thing I love the most, and still work hard to get it by myself haha, so no offend!

Friday, May 25, 2018

How to realize when puberty hits on yourself?


How to realize when puberty hits on yourself?

Sometimes, you don't need people's view about yourself because you'll find the truely side of you that maybe they have keep it inside from you. Maybe you don't realizing this, but I can tell you that you're worthy person that human needed in this world.

  • When you think you're pretty brain, soul and beauty.
Your minded set is the biggest things to get deal with. I know its hard to think that you're pretty as you see everyone is just beautiful and had puberty on themselves. now look at yourself. As for me [I'm sweet potato] and I think its so fine. Please don't compare yourself with others because I do believe, her/his life isn't the same way as you and you need to be thankful of what you have. I give you an example ; Maybe she's smart damn hot plus pretty but she doesn't really have time with her parents. all her life spend on wealthy things but she doesn't genuinely happy. so got my message. Yeah Pls

  • When you start to think wisely before take an action.
This is so important to have a brain before make a decision. Most of people tend to take decision when they're having mix feeling especially girls (this is true). Their feelings are just choas and they don't usually fine. I realized it still hard for me to be smart in everything I do. For example ; I yelled to people I love when I was not fine and moody. Then, I started to feel sorry to them :( I worry if they hurt because of me. Just please, control your emotion and don't let feelings control ur mind. 

  • When you don't mind how everyone hates about you because you know they don't worthy in your life.
Yes she's so tired to care.

  • When you care about your family and trusted friend the most.
Sometimes you just need them to advice you. You need to believe their words because every single words are deeply true. You need to let them in your life and don't hate them :( cuz in the end you will stay by their side when you have nobody. Please appreciate good people who wants to see ur happiness all along together. Who wants to see you success in future. 

  • When you've set your major plan in future and get ready to start your career.
I still blank to think this part of me. whats i'm going to be in future. As for now, I just follow the flow and asked Allah what's the best for me. Seriously, this is the hardest decision I ever made to decide what choice I would make. I'm scared for sure, but I'll never give up on the thing that I started. but hopefully, my plan to open the bakery and lecturer/a teacher will come true. Aamiiin

  • When you realize that all you had insecure for were stupid.

  • When you try harder in way to get success. I mean extraordinary study finally hits on you.
I'm so lazy to study on time like I always procrastinate in everything i do but then i managed to settle it in a very last minute (homework especially). How weird I am. But really, after I enter to University I should throw that lazy away.

  • When you realize the only one you need to care and focus more is yourself.

  • When you miss someone but you only keep it in your heart and pray.
This is so true. If you like someone, pray for him. If you miss them you should pray. No matter how far the distance is, du'a will always make it closer and link to that person.

  • When you're grateful being you.

  • When you believe someone right will belong to you

The key for this is patience. You're only 18 years old, there is a very long journey that awaiting for you out there. As for now, chase your dream, embrace your life, theres so much things to be done. Believe me, when the time is right it'll come.